The road to being fit is never linear. You will encounter bumps and bruises along the way toward your peak potential, but most people fall short of achieving even half of their desired results.
They may understand that fitness is hard but then forget about their mind and its key role and contribution to their overall health.
Or they may have the fitness part down but lack the personal development and emotional connection needed to be successful. This "desire" of a "one size fits all" mentality when it comes to getting results has been misconstrued over the years. Below I will highlight those who I see consistently not reaching true potential because of the roadblocks they place for themselves.
The Person Who Thinks it Lasts Forever
These are the ones who crack me up the most. They act like giving up pizza and ice cream is something they must do "forever" and that getting fit means they never can enjoy the foods they like again.
Furthermore, they firmly believe their training plan will take years to see results and the time/effort they need to put into it is just not worth it. Most of the time, I see these people start programs but once they start getting in their head that reducing calories and cutting out all their favorite foods will last more than a week, they instantly throw the word "forever" around like a week was five years ago and quit!
The Person With Countless 'Roadblocks'
These people are far more common than any of the others on my list! I actually get a good laugh with them because I like to think of them as people who should wear shirts that say "nothing is good enough."
If you mention training to them on the weekends, they tell you that it's family time! If you say in the morning, well now all the sudden they are not a morning person. And you guessed it, after work doesn't cut the mustard either because they are now "too tired."
Excuses become the norm, and they can't eat healthier because their kids don't like it. They can't afford the training fees because they don't have the money (meanwhile they spend $4 a day on their Starbucks latte which would cover the cost of training.)
Nutrition gets even better. You suggest a plan for them, and all the sudden they need to be gluten-free. You suggest a solid protein supplement and they are dairy-free. You set them up with a macro-based plan, but they tell you they hate counting and doing math.
Low-carb makes them tired, high-fat makes them constipated. Tell them to just CUT calories and they tell you they can't because they are hungry all the time and cannot go without their sweets.
Reasons for "why they can't" become a new standard for any request to become healthier. As a trainer, it can be fun seeing how many excuses these types of people can come up with before their nose starts growing like Pinocchio.
To be honest, these people do NOT want solutions. You could try endlessly to help them but they just see obstacles and have tunnel vision, which will never get them where they want to be. Truly I think it is because they don't want to put in the effort to get the results they want, but I'll let them come up with an excuse—they love doing it so much!
The Person Who Is Entirely Too Picky!
This goes right along with the previous person, but these people are simply not getting results just because of their nutritional habits.
They maybe eat one type of fruit and shun veggies unless they are hosed in cream sauce or deep fried.
They can't drink just plain water and have to gulp down their sodas and cappuccinos every day to "hydrate."
They complain about the time it takes to cook healthy, when I literally made a sprouted grain pizza in 4 minutes before typing this. They just fail to realize it takes a little planning; the drive-through does not.
They think food substitutes like spaghetti squash for noodles or cauliflower for mashed potatoes or rice are silly. Further they complain about how expensive it is to eat healthy. Truth is, you can whip up your healthy meal for less than $3 if you plan it out.
For these people, I'm not fully sold that's it's a "picky" eater problem as much as a "lazy" problem. They are just too lazy to take the time to plan what they want to eat and/or find the inexpensive items to prepare meals.
They may think we are strange for being so strict, but they don't realize one simple thing: We LOVE pizza too! Regular bacon tastes a hell of a lot better than turkey bacon, and the dopamine adrenaline rush from mashed potatoes can't be replaced with cauliflower! We understand that and love our delicious foods too, but we also love to fuel our bodies with what helps us perform in the gym or on the field.
I know many times you have heard the saying "you are what you eat." I think it's a bit extreme, but you certainly train better and get results faster when you eat a well-balanced diet full of foods without packages and ingredients you cannot pronounce.
It's sad because these people do not realize how simple swaps can really make huge positive differences, but they have blinders on and only see deep dish pizza one way. All it takes is some effort, planning and a simple google search these days to find something equivalent to its "unhealthy" counterpart.
One final point on this: if you think eggs and veggies are the only foods to eat and you make them the same simple way, then get better in the kitchen. Grow up and add some spice to your life!
The person who DELAYS the Inevitable.
"I'll start on Monday!"
"I will go hard closer to my wedding!"
"Gonna wait til New Year!"
Procrastination just makes progress harder and harder to achieve. There is never a "perfect time" to start.
Something will ALWAYS be there to give you a reason to push your start date. But when it comes to getting results, you keep saying they will come when you start. Sound messed up? It is!
Thinking your schedule will free up is like imagining you will hit the lottery—it just won't happen, and until you make the time for it and decide to stop delaying, you will always settle for being "mediocre."
The Person Who Is Always Injured
Being injured isn't fun. But there is always a way to train around injuries. In fact, my latest STACK article talks about it and how you can work through injuries and train just as hard as you would if you were healthy—it just takes preparation!
Too many people don't see this and instead see pain and misery when they just need to open their eyes to the positive possibilities.
There are always exercises you can do that are pain-free that you can use to fill in for others that may be preventing that injury from not healing. In fact, training other parts of the body have been shown to speed the recovery of the injured area!
Stop pouting about being too injured to train or lift a dumbbell or do a Push-Up. You're not, and you're only hurting yourself and your ego by telling others, including your trainers, that you "can't."
Being stuck in certain mindsets can keep you from reaching your health and fitness goals, but hopefully adding some perspective can guide those of you who lean on these excuses toward a more positive direction!
If you want or need that extra push to stay fit and be held accountable so you are not a part of the majority who fall off from their New Year's resolutions you can join my online community here for great information and tips to stay on track!
As an added bonus, check out the visual for reasons why you may NOT be losing weight!
Be sure to follow me on Instagram @mjo_oaf.
Photo Credit: imtmphoto/iStock
- 4 Motivational Tips to Help You Achieve Your Goals
- You Can Perform These 'No Excuses' Exercises Anytime, Anywhere
- Are You Setting Yourself Up to Fail?